8 Signs You Should Walk Away
Are they draining your energy? Signs you should walk away from someone who leaves you energetically exhausted even for celebrations.
The holiday season is here, and with it comes some of the most draining and exhausting situations. There are signs that people share about what they do next that is about to keep you from completing tasks and accomplishing your goals. In addition, these prickly individuals can create unseen energy-draining situations, masking them as love and friendships. We will discuss key areas of the eight signs you should walk away.
No matter where we are in our ascending souls journey, some of the people we love the most are undeniably exhausting. From family, friends, bosses, and romantic partners, they can suck the joy out of your life and not bat an eye. Spending time in an unhealthy environment can leave us not wanting to do that special thing we were so excited to do, even participating in celebrations.
It seems so crazy, or at least it may make us feel that way when we hear the words people say or are near their negative energy vibrations. We all transmit energetic vibrations, so even if they say nice things, their vibes can throw you off balance. An empath can feel things deeply as part of their spiritual gift; however, we can believe it's coming from us if it's not detected where or who is sending those vibes. When we understand the signs of a person who depletes our energy level, we can choose how or if we want to continue to be involved.
Whether it be gossip, micro-expressions, tonalities, or the family member who constantly makes others laugh at your expense, depleting your energy can happen fast. The good news is that when we know what it is and where it is coming from, we can thrive past it carefree and full of joy. Understanding the signs of an energetically draining person will give us the tools to know if we should walk away.
Here are 8 signs you should walk away from someone wreaking havoc and draining your energy without knowing:
1. Energy Vampire
You know, the type that when you walk away from spending time with them, you are completely drained and want to lay in bed and veg. You leave in a state unable to think or feel, let alone physically do that specific thing you planned. Spending extended periods around these types will eventually cause problems.
Although these individuals often present themselves in a positive, perhaps superior front, they are undoubtedly the complete opposite. Sharing the tales of their journeys or how much they made on investment may seem alluring, at least enough to get your foot inside their doorway to the “negative-ville” of a one-sided conversation. They are very charismatic and send out inviting words and vibes to get you hooked and feel safe. Still, once we walk through that figurative doorway, it is entirely different than we thought. These individuals, much like narcissists, can capture your attention for sure and then fill the air with their insecurities disguised as a winner-circle situation.
They'll act like a child, nudging you to look at them and ask unanswerable questions until we can't listen anymore. Leaving your head aching, you will want to curl up in a ball and hide with nothing left to give anyone, including yourself. No matter what is said or done, this person takes our joy and happiness away. Standing next to this person can make us feel like we're being pulled to the earth's floor and don't have the strength to get up. Ugh! The more they share or sit and stare without speaking, the more they leave us ready to nap. There is a saying, "hurt people, hurt people". If you find yourself involved with someone who leads you into feeling sad, depressed, undervalued, or just outright exhausted, it's time to reconsider if you should walk away.
2. The Drama King or Queen
There's always one person who creates a dramatic situation out of nowhere. These types can provoke attention toward anyone as long as they are in control. They start arguments with other family members, a debate that often turns into intense drama without anything to do with the original topic. They relish and thrive on creating chaos through redirection and repetitive interruptions.
Whether the focus is to point the unnecessary drama away from themselves or toward themselves, the fireworks light up to cause a scene. You may be in the middle of the drama and only know it once it's too late. They tend to fade in the background with a slight smirk of a fake smile as they watch with excitement over the chaos they create. If you are in a relationship with this type of individual, it may be time to dodge them for good.
3. Love To Criticise
Listening to your brother or someone you love say criticizing words about everyone else is just not fun. You can feel your energy drain out with each negative word spoken about someone else. These people will go on and on, often repeating the same thing repeatedly, making your eyes roll, wishing they would stop. They can bring up something from twenty years ago that happened once and make it sound recent.
Listening to them share all the bad points of view about someone else crosses the line into gossip. Insecurities shine bright if we are paying attention. Nagging about the choice of food on the table, the slow service, or the one person who didn't show up can send ripples down the back of our necks. Meanwhile, our thoughts are shouting, "Shut up"!
If you find yourself around the low-vibrating criticizer, exhausted, and feel your body tense up, re-evaluate the situation and decide if it feels right to walk away. Staying healthy in our mental and emotional stance is one of our most valuable life tools.
4. Crossing Boundaries
Boundaries are a prominent aspect of creating healthy situations and satisfying lifestyles. They are a form of protection and maintaining what is best for us and others around us as a preventative measure from getting caught up in chaos and other people's turmoils. We draw these lines to keep out negative people and experiences, which we must always maintain. Having a friend, family member, or anyone crashing through the walls of protection can take a toll on us.
Whether we see it happening to us or someone else, crashing through the barriers we create causes pain. The more they do it, the more it intensifies with each toe-tipping situation. Constantly defending ourselves and others is exhausting and reveals an evident lack of respect for your boundaries. Unfortunately, with these types of individuals, it never seems to stop, leading us to decide whether to stay involved with them. Staying healthy in our mind, body, and spirit means walking away from the boundary breakers.
5. No Reciprocation
"I give, you give" is a universal basic necessity in growing a healthy and thriving life. A fair value exchange from those around is essential to prevent overgiving and overtaking. However, some people don't see it that way. The selfishness of them trying to get a pat on the back or words of acknowledgment for something they believe is well done, even taking the win that belongs to someone else, is exceedingly energy-draining.
They generally dominate conversations, and when you try to get a word in, they cut you off and continue about themselves. Whether it is one-sided conversations, gift-giving to family members and not getting anything in return, or a best friend avoiding you when it's time to have sidekick support, it weakens us to exhaustion. The overthinking impeding our minds and wondering if we did something wrong because they're not giving a fair exchange is plain, outright draining. It can even lead to a conversation where they accuse you of not giving enough, correctly, or at all.
These individuals will take everything they can and give nothing back, whether financially, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. If you find the people around you are not giving back, it may be a clear sign to look further at who and what you choose to give. Always remember that giving to others is good, but equal reciprocity is key to maintaining a healthy life.
6. They Are Always Right
No matter if you have proof on a topic, this person will disregard it all and say their version is correct. There is no room for negations or changing their perception. They will go on in what seems like forever to say they know they are right, even using hand gestures to push away the evidence. This situation is exceptionally energetically draining, and I have seen it cause families to separate and end long friendships.
In addition, this person will always have others nearby who agree with them and refuse to look at any evidence or proof you may have to offer. Agreeing to disagree is a beautiful way to keep our relationships in check where no one feels exhausted. But If someone around you continuously tries to say you're wrong, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship. Gaslighting is no longer the trend and is now replaced with authenticity. Truthful communication is another form of self-love.
7. They Always Play The Victim
One of my family members would want me to talk with them while they fiddled with gadgets and tools in their garage. Each time we start having a seemingly good conversation, it always seems to turn a three-sixty, and somehow, they become a victim. They complain that someone took from them or wants something they feel entitled to have, yet they don't want to give back, which is a common theme for these types of people.
At some point, they may say something like, "I deserve it because I had a bad childhood," or similar. Often, the things they cry about happened years ago or once in the past, yet this person brings it back to life on a regular basis. You can watch their posture and demeanor change as if they jump did a timeline jump into a different life than you remember. Just thinking about those days makes me want to sigh and slam the communication door shut.
8. Constantly Negative
Growing up in a toxic family highlights the true meaning of negativity. The parents who complain about each other, the last holiday meal that was not the best, or a family or friend that seemed to hurt them make it a struggle to be around. Mom complains about Dad, who complains about her friends, and both fight over politics. No matter who was complaining, being around negative people is horrible on a regular basis. Even in small increments like a holiday celebration, we still feel the unseen adverse effects these people throw out there.
Although it is a long list, the most common complaints are talking bad about others, fault finding, judgment, it is someone's fault, and the list goes on and on. They interrupt you and somehow switch your upbeat, happy, joyous feelings in a completely different direction, ending with the words it's time to nap. Negativity is contagious, so it's wise to be aware of who and what is overriding you with negativity. If it comes from our own life experience, we can fix that, but if it comes from others, we must decide how long we can tolerate it or walk away.
Do You Stay Or Walk Away
It can be challenging to make decisions about staying or walking away from those we love the most. When they leave us unable to function at a normal pace and drained, we have to stop and ask ourselves if it is worth the outcome. Evaluating the situation or sacrifice when it comes to spending time with them is not easy, but it is a part of our spiritual path. These eight signs are essential in our choice to rise through Ascension and reshape or create new communities, families, and habits with our new lifestyle.
Regardless of how much we care, keeping people who continually deplete our dreams, goals, and aspirations away is unhealthy. Whether they intentionally do these unnerving acts, we already know it can feel like a tug-of-war between them and us.
Making wise choices will be a major game changer in building a stable foundation. Investing time to understand who is draining your energy is a big part of the unseen spiritual battle of internal self-growth and self-love. Paying attention to your intuition and following the healthy boundaries you've developed is vital to achieving victories through optimizing your creations and inner peace. Learn more about using your intuition and micro-expressions in my ebook, "Micro Vibes," by LA Gonzales, available on Amazon.
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