Render Them Speechless
How to Handle Criticism with Grace and Empowerment
We've all heard the saying, "You attract people who match your vibrational frequency." In many ways, this is true. We tend to align with those who resonate on a similar energetic wavelength, sharing common goals, beliefs, or attitudes. Yet, life has its way of throwing in the unexpected. Surprise!
Sometimes, we encounter individuals who seem out of sync with our vibration, creating tension or possibly triggering discomfort. Like a mirror, our presence can reflect something within them they don't want to face, often with them not realizing their inner battles. When this happens, criticism usually follows—unsolicited, sharp, and sometimes deeply personal.
The Mirror Effect: What They're Really Reacting To
Criticism from others often has very little to do with you. Instead, it's a projection of the other person's insecurities or unresolved issues. Your light may shine a little too bright for their comfort, illuminating areas in their own lives where they feel inadequate, stuck, or fearful.
When situations like this happen, sometimes people can say something that pushes their insecurities onto you. They may not realize this is what is happening, or they could be trying to get an energy boost for themselves.
No matter the reason, here's the truth. Their criticism is not your burden. You don't have to absorb it, defend yourself, or react with frustration. Instead, you can respond with clarity, power, and an out-of-the-blue twist, rendering them speechless.
A Powerful Response: The Art of Agreeance
If your friend walks up to you and says, "You know you don't have what it takes to make it work." What would you say? The art of agreeance is one of the best secrets to maintaining self-control and empowerment without seeming hurtful. It doesn’t mean you're lying or dishonest, but it will shake them up about the agreement.
When faced with someone criticizing you, try this response:
When they say something negative, nod your head in agreeance and say, "I see that in you."
It is so simple yet completely disarming. When nodding your head in agreeance, you're neither resisting nor retaliating. Instead, you're subtly holding an invisible mirror right back at them.
Why this works:
It disrupts their pattern. Most people criticize and expect a defensiveness or angry reaction, fueling their fire. When you nod and calmly agree, it will catch them off guard.
It redirects the energy. By saying, "I see that in you," acknowledges the projection without taking it on yourself, making the person pause and reflect on their words. If the person was unaware of their intentions, they would understand their reflection was about them, not you. If your response triggers anger in them, you will know exactly who you are dealing with and can choose how to move in the relationship.
It empowers you. You remain calm, composed, and unbothered, and you don't allow their negativity to penetrate your energetic field.
The best part is the weird look on their face as they process your response. You may see them stumble or say nothing at all. Most likely, they won't know what to say, and that is the elegance behind the method. You've gently but firmly ended the conversation without conflict.
A Lesson in Vibrational Mastery
As we walk the journey of self-awareness and spiritual growth, not every interaction will align. Sometimes, your purpose is to inspire change; other times, it's simply to hold your ground and maintain your peace. If you are an empath, you may trigger others to heal themselves.
Taking on someone else's burdens may seem kind and loving; however, it is one the worst things we can do to maintain self-balance and self-love. As spiritual beings who have conquered inner healing, we no longer feel the need or desire to carry the weight of someone else's fears, anger, and insecurities.
Remember this simple technique the next time someone's words try to pull you into their internal storm. Elevate the energy around you by refusing to engage in negativity and instead holding up the mirror with love and calmness.
Criticism will come, but how you respond defines the mastery of your spiritual and growth journey. Render them speechless, not with anger or frustration, but with grace and a steady vibration that refuses to waver. Always maintain your power, inspire growth in others, and, most importantly, stay true to your higher self.
Stay Empowered,
LA Gonzales
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